Do Men Like It When Women Ask Them Out?
I recently saw a question online from a woman asking, “Is it okay for women to ask men out?”. I started to think about this and asked around. Overwhelmingly, every guy I asked replied with an immediate and hugely enthusiastic, “Yes!!”. There was no hesitation from any of them, and many dream of the day it might happen to them. It communicates from the beginning that you are a confident person and that you are definitely interested. These two things make for a much clearer and relaxing start to getting to know each other and takes the guess work out of the equation.
Traditionally, dating dynamics have often placed the expectation on men to make the first move. However, as modern dating evolves, many women are questioning whether they should take the initiative and ask men out themselves. But do men actually like it when women make the first move? The answer is a resounding yes—and more men than ever appreciate this balanced and modern approach to dating!
Being Proactive and Breaking Stereotypes!
Being proactive and going for what you want is a good thing. There is an idea that the man should ask you out or it’s not a woman’s place to ask him out. Why not? If you want to do it, what’s stopping you? We can stick with these outdated notions of waiting and hoping… Or we can just do it. We can go and say hello, after all there’s nothing to lose. The bonus here is that not many women actually do it, so it’s a great way to stand out!
You might be wondering, but why doesn’t he approach me? Isn’t that the way it’s supposed to be? One problem here is that so many men are concerned with approaching when it’s not welcome, coming across as a creepy or making a woman feel uncomfortable that it can become very difficult. It’s the ones that care so much and try to do it right that are missing out by not approaching women. The good guys often wait for women to come to them, because then they know for sure that she is comfortable with the situation. It’s the only way to guarantee this and it’s something I’ve been told by several men, all of them falling into this category.
Confidence is Super Attractive!
Confidence is one of the most universally attractive traits. When a woman approaches a man, it signals self-assurance and enthusiasm—qualities that can spark instant chemistry. Many men find it exciting when someone is direct and genuine about their feelings. By taking the initiative, women help create a culture where attraction and romance are a two-way street, making dating more enjoyable and authentic for everyone. Approaching someone you’re interested in encourages openness and honesty from the start. It removes ambiguity and games, allowing both people to communicate their feelings clearly and directly. This can lead to stronger, more genuine relationships.
It Feels Good to Be Wanted & Eases the Pressure
Everyone enjoys feeling desired, and men are no exception! When a woman expresses interest, it’s a confidence boost and a refreshing change from the usual dynamic. It creates a sense of mutual attraction and appreciation, fostering a stronger connection. Dating can sometimes feel like a high-stakes game, and men often feel the pressure to always be the initiators. When a woman takes the lead, it creates a more relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere, making interactions feel effortless and fun.
Making the First Move at Singles Events
Singles events are the perfect place to embrace making the first move! With a fun, relaxed environment, it’s easier than ever to strike up conversations and build connections. If you’ve been hesitant about approaching someone, a singles event is the ideal setting to give it a go. You may just find that taking the first step leads to something wonderful! Avoid sticking in large groups of women as it makes this even harder. Move around the room, wait at the bar, stand don’t sit. There is a lot to explore within this, which we will do in a future article.
Go for it, Why Not?!
Men love it when women approach them—because confidence, openness, and enthusiasm are attractive traits in anyone. If you’ve been considering making the first move, go for it! You never know where one bold step could lead. After all, the best relationships often start with a simple, genuine connection. Go for it ladies, great guys are out there!
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